I recently received an email from a very kind gentleman named Tom. I thought it was so well written and completely from the heart that I wanted to share it with all those that visit this blog. Here is the email that Tom wrote me:

I understand your difficulty in connecting with other gay people.  I myself prefer not to use the label, because there is so much baggage attached to it, and much of it I don’t identify with myself.  For instance, I loathe the effeminate qualities associated with the gay stereotype; it’s just not my thing.  So instead, I try to look beyond it … it’s just an aspect of me, I don’t let it define me, and I don’t let it get me down.  I don’t really mention my attraction to other people (as they don’t really have a need to know, and many people don’t know how to take it … it can be an unnecessary complication, and just draws attention to yourself), and I don’t think people really notice.  (more…)