Posts Tagged ‘Courage’

Busy, Busy, Busy

Tuesday, September 29th, 2009

Sorry for not posting anything lately, I just have been very busy. I recently relaunched my web design business’ website. I am still working two jobs, which keeps me very busy as well. Last night I help run an employee party to help celebrate the end of summer and it was also designed to thank everyone there for all the hard work they did during the summer. It was a good time and I think everyone enjoyed it.

I did attend Courage on Thursday and found that to be very interesting. I do want to write a blog entry on what we talked about that night as I think it was a really great topic. Hopefully sometime this week I will find the time.

I have also been working on 2 additional websites. One is for a local church, Unity of Faith Community Church (not a Catholic Church) and one that a friend and I have decided to create. The local church one should be finished by the middle of next week. The one that my friend and I are working on should be finished within any luck and a blessing from God, by the end of the month. I don’t want to go into a lot of details about it, but we are hoping this website has a huge impact on the world.  The only hint I will give is that it has to do with the power of prayer and saving lives. Two great Catholic believes. Look for an update on this website towards the end of the month, but I am excited to be a part of this project.

Staying Positive

Friday, July 24th, 2009

It has been about two weeks since the last time I actually wrote an entry, so I figured it was about time to do so again. I thought this was a good time to update everyone on my feelings of Courage, friendships, and other stuff going on in my life.

Let us start with Courage. This month’s meeting is coming up this week and I am still planning to attend it.  I know I may not have always spoken as positively as I could have about this group, but I do think it is important for me to attend the meetings. I do not attend Church very often so this is necessary for me to be able to fellowship with other Catholics.

I would like to explain why I was so disappointed about Courage in the past and did not allows speak as positively as I could have about this group. It took me awhile to figure out what my issue was with attending Courage. I went there looking to make some new friends. I wanted to meet some people that I could relate too, being both gay and Catholic.  Not fully realizing what it was I was looking for when I first started attending Courage, I was not happy with what I was receiving from the group.  Now that I more aware of what it is I was/am looking for as well as understanding what the Courage group has to offer me, I think I will be able to gain more from attending these groups then I did in the past. I am going to go there with a new attitude this month.  My focus is going to be on gaining more spiritual knowledge as well as discussing my life experiences with others in hopes that it may help one of them out.

Friendship. One of the most important things in life is having friends you can count on.  Recently my hours were cut by 8 hours a week because of “budget reasons”.  I was bummed out about this for a while and mentioned it to a friend of mine. She told me to shut out.  She explained to me she had less than 5 hours at work for the week and that her house has been broken into 3 times in the last month that she knows of. She was right.  I really did not have anything to complain about.  I could make it with having my hours cut.  I just needed to be more positive about my life.  I needed to look at the situation in a different light. I needed to look at what I could be doing with my extra time to better my life. What I have been doing is looking at this extra time off as a great time to start building up my web design business.  I have also taking some time to enjoy the nice weather and started to read a book I have been wanting to read for some time now. I also started a second web design business that focuses on helping out organizations that help people with trouble past. The name of the business is  Turn Right Web Design.

The last thing I would like to cover is an update on my last posting I wrote entitled Why Must the Good Die Young?, which was about a friend of mine whom brother was killed.  I have talked to him just about every day for the last 2 weeks and he is starting to do better. I am sure he will still have some days which are harder than others, but I think he will be fine.

As for me, I am going to work on having a positive attitude with Courage as well as things going on in my life.  There are always going to be bumps in the road, but all we can do is go over them and hold onto the steering wheel.  They are just bumps and everyone has them to go over, it just seems some people’s bumps are just bigger than others are.  If you hold on to that steering wheel and stay focused on God, any situation you are dealing with can be faced head on and a better and brighter future will be in store for you. One must just remain focused.

I would like to encourage anyone that reads this post to leave a comment about one thing they have struggled with and how staying positive and focused on God, how they made it through it.

Email to a Reader

Monday, July 6th, 2009

A few weeks ago a reader sent me the following message:

Hey Joe,

Just curious if you had any update on your Courage experience?

I allows find it great that people that I don’t even know are interested in what is going on in my life and what I have decided about I discuss on this site. The responded to him as followed.

How are you doing? Thanks for the posting a comment on my site and for sending me this email. It’s always great to hear what others have to say and to know someone is really reading what I write.

I am sorry to hear that you had such a bad experience with Courage. I think I would have done something similar as you did if the Courage group I went too was ran by individuals that were homophobic. If you are going to be a part of any group, it should be one that you feel a part of and believe in what they are doing.

The courage group that I kind of attend is a little different than that. The priest that runs it isn’t homophobic. There hasn’t been any attempts during the 3 meetings I attended to put anyone down or make them feel shameful of their actions. The guys in the group and the priest do seem to respect each other as people and understand that it is a struggle to live one’s life as a gay catholic. The priest even wrote a small book on how one should live their life having the “issue” of being attracted to someone of the same sex. I don’t agree with everything in that book, but there was a lot of useful stuff in it. One thing that surprised me was that he seem to understand that it was a human need to be touched and loved. Hugging and touching each other (in non sexual ways) is needed in life. I think this in an area many people don’t understand and seem to get confused on. It seems that in our society, we don’t realize all the different forms of intimacy that we can have with each other, not just intimacy in a sexual way.

I think the issue that I have had with the group is it may not be what I was looking for. I am looking for a place to make some new friends that have the same beliefs as I do and have some common interest. I want to find a place where I belong. The Courage group that I attended was more based on a therapy type model. The priest has a degree in Social something or other and there are 2 psychologist in the group, so I think that has a big part the way the group is ran.

But the issue is I’m looking to make some new friends and not have to worry about them trying to take advantage of me. This group is more focused on how to live your life having “same sex” attractions. So what it really comes down to is what I am looking for and what this group has to offer. I just am not sure it is what I am looking for.

If you are wonder, we haven’t had a group in the last 2 months. Last month one of the guys in the group called to let me know that the group was canceled. He did say that he was going to get a hold of me in a few weeks, but that never happened. I really wasn’t surprised by that and I really never counted on him calling me later on either. So right now I’m looking at it like this, are these the type of people that I want to be friends with and currently I’m leaning towards no.